Date a Girl That Reads

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilightseries.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

Ten Things I Want To Tell Teenage and Preteen Girls

1.  If you choose to wear shirts that show off your boobs, you will attract boys.  To be more specific, you will attract the kind of boys that like to look down girls’ shirts.  If you want to date a guy who likes to look at other girls’ boobs and chase skirts, then great job; keep it up.  If you don’t want to date a guy who ogles at the breasts of other women, then maybe you should stop offering your own breasts up for the ogling.  All attention is not equal.  You think you want attention, but you don’t.  You want respect.  All attention is not equal.

2. Don’t go to the tanning bed.  You’ll thank me when you go to your high school reunion and you look like you’ve been airbrushed and then photoshopped compared to the tanning bed train wrecks formerly known as classmates – well, at least next to the ones that haven’t died from skin cancer.

3.  When you talk about your friends “anonymously” on Facebook, we  know exactly who you’re talking about.  People are smarter than you think they are.  Stop posting passive-aggressive statuses about the myriad of ways your friends disappoint you.

4. Newsflash: the number of times you say “I hate drama” is a pretty good indicator of how much you love drama.  Non-dramatic people don’t feel the need to discuss all the drama they didn’t start and aren’t involved in.

5.  “Follow your heart” is probably the worst advice ever. 

6. Never let a man make you feel weak or inferior because you are an emotional being.  Emotion is good; it is nothing to be ashamed of.  Emotion makes us better – so long as it remains in it’s proper place: subject to truth and reason.

7.  Smoking is not cool.

8.  Stop saying things like, “I don’t care what anyone thinks about me.”  First of all, that’s not true.  And second of all, if it is true, you need a perspective shift.  Your reputation matters – greatly.  You should care what people think of you.

9. Don’t play coy or stupid or helpless to get attention.  Don’t pretend something is too heavy so that a boy will carry it for you.  Don’t play dumb to stroke someone’s ego.  Don’t bat your eyelashes in exchange for attention and expect to be taken seriously, ever.  You can’t have it both ways.  Either you show the world that you have a brain and passions and skills, or you don’t.  There are no damsels in distress managing corporations, running countries, or managing households.  The minute you start batting eyelashes, eyelashes is all you’ve got.

10.  You are beautiful.  You are enough.  The world we live in is twisted and broken and for your entire life you will be subjected to all kinds of lies that tell you that you are not enough.  You are not thin enough.  You are not tan enough.  You are not smooth, soft, shiny, firm, tight, fit, silky, blonde, hairless enough.  Your teeth are not white enough.  Your legs are not long enough.  Your clothes are not stylish enough.  You are not educated enough.  You don’t have enough experience.  You are not creative enough.

There is a beauty industry, a fashion industry, a television industry, (and most unfortunately) a pornography industry: and all of these have unique ways of communicating to bright young women: you are not beautiful, sexy, smart or valuable enough.

You must have the clarity and common sense to know that none of that is true. None of it.

You were created for a purpose, exactly so.  You have innate value.  You are loved more than you could ever comprehend; it is mind-boggling how much you are adored.  There has never been, and there will never be another you.  Therefore, you have unique thoughts to offer the world.  They are only yours, and we all lose out if you are too fearful to share them.

You are beautiful.  You are valuable.  You are enough.

Bucket List - Dance in the Rain

                 I've seen the movies, I've read the books, and I've heard the stories... it would be amazing to dance in the rain. I've never been afraid of rain. When others run for cover, I've always inwardly wanted to stay out and jump through puddles enjoying the water as it hits my face and gathers on my eyelashes. To roll up my jeans, tie back my hair, and soak up the sweet natural waters from above... that would be pure bliss. Rain is simply perfect for everything. You can cry through it, dance with it, kiss in it, sleep to it, and sing in it. But whether you're crying, dancing, kissing, sleeping, or singing... rain keeps its constant down pour. It harmonizes with your every move. Its rain. The thing I'd like to dance in... sometime before I kick the bucket.

My Rant

**Warning** 

Now I should warn you all before you read the rest this is a rant. Theses opinions expressed are my pure and honest opinion if it offends you or you disagree then please press the large X on the top right of your screen. Thanks you and enjoy! 

I have been sitting here looking at this blank web page for about 10 minutes now. I have been trying to formulate in my mind how to start this rant. I have had many ideas but none have rally stuck in my mind. That of course is not to say that I don't know what I want to say because i surely due. The way you start something is the way you should and chances are will finish something. Just like life. You start out your life with your family and hopefully you are lucky enough to end this way.
My friend have been going through a patch of drama.. we to be honest its more than a patch. I sometimes times think that people in general thrive off of drama. That adrenaline rush you get when you are tell a secret behind someones back. I think people do that because they want to feel something. They are scared that they might go numb is they do not feel something at ever moment. This of course is not totally all there fault. Society has "helped" us realize that that all that matters feelings. In real life though feeling come and go. They are just fleeting glances. Things that yes matter some what but there is more to life than feelings you must also have logic. The best example of this is your relationships with your parents. Have you ever been mad at your parent? How did you feel about them when you were little? You thought they could do no wrong and they were really smart. How about in your teens? You would fight with them or think you know more right? Well how about when they are old and gray and you have to take care of them? Will you still FEEL the same way you did when you were a teen of when you  were little? No you wont.  When we let our feeling run away with us we than fall into drama.. and so we have come full circle.
The Drama I mentioned earlier with my friends has to do with relationships. (the boyfriend/girlfriend type) Like in most high school relationships there is drama.  I honestly don't care much for drama sure it happens to and around me sometimes but I do not try to be a part of it. So naturally I didn't really get involved with the drama that is going on with  my friend until of course it got way way out of hand. i then did something maybe not so smart but whatever. I called the boy involved and had a long talk with him about how life is not about having a relationship. This concept was foreign to him as it might be to you so I will repeat it again... LIFE IS NOT ABOUT HAVING A RELATIONSHIP!! It not about having a boyfriend/girlfriend and finding satisfaction in that.... that will never satisfy you. This boy is the kind of friend who is straight up with me and i with him. I asked him a honest question that I will now ask you.... Would you be content being single?...... you know in your heart of hearts you have that true answer. He answered " well I had been single for 2 years before 'jane'... but honestly I don't know"  You see life is not about that. Yes having a boyfriend is nice I have even had a few in my time but I soon found out I was not ready. I have learned over the years that when you are content being single that's is when you are most ready for a relationship. When you throw up you hands and say you know i don't care if i find Mr. Right. That is where you find Mr Right. Single by Natasha Bedingfield has become my theme song.
Well this rant is now coming to a close so I leave you with this one last thought enclosed in this picture below.

Patient Endurance

"Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God's will. Then you will receive all that He has promised." ~Hebrews 10:36

Remember...

Since it's almost Christmas (Yay!!!), I thought maybe we could take some time from our usual topics to remember the "reason for the season."

I heard something the other day that really made me think about my attitude towards Christmas. When we forget to worship Jesus during Christmas, it's like going to a birthday party and bringing everyone except for the birthday person a present. It's Christ's birthday that we're celebrating. Shouldn't our gift to Him be the most important thing on the list? It's so easy to get caught up in the craziness of the season though. There are parties to go to, cookies to bake, presents to buy- It's easy to forget the whole reason we're celebrating. This funny video explains it pretty well.


I've constantly had to remind myself this Christmas season that it's not about me. It's not about getting everyone the perfect gift, and even harder, is it's not about getting everything on my wish list! Whether I get the super cute jacket or fancy curling iron I want won't matter twenty years from now, and more importantly it definitely won't matter in eternity.

Matthew 6:19-20 says:


"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."

Instead of a time to be greedy and materialistic, Christmas should be a time of thanks. Instead of thinking about the next big thing that we want, we should praise God for what He has already given us. We have food to eat, a roof over our heads, people who love us, and most of all we have a personal Savior if we have a relationship with Christ, who came to earth as a little baby to save us!

I'm going to challenge you (As well as myself!) to take time these next couple weeks to turn down the Christmas carols, put your shopping bags down, and remember the reason we celebrate. Remember the King who came and died so we could have eternal freedom! Talk to Him, listen to His words. Christmas is on a Sunday this year. I cannot think of a better way to begin Jesus' birthday than worshiping Him in His house! Whatever we do, let's remember the reason for the season, the hope that came to earth that night in Bethlehem. This Christmas, let's not forget the Birthday Boy!

Life and its Curveballs.

        

I should be doing homework. But instead, I couldn't drag myself to do it, so instead I'm here, writing my feelings. Mounting them onto the transparent wall of the internet. So, my life? Well, this year has thrown me many curve-balls. I think I have things figured out. I think the ball is right about to head right over home plate, I swing at it.... and miss. The ball curves and hits me unexpectedly. I just don't understand my feelings anymore. Things seem to change like the wind. And now my life has become a bit more exciting and confusing. Now, I'm not complaining, because I always wanted excitement, but life becomes a bit twistier than you expect sometimes. We can't see what's coming. But there is One who does.


You see, in all my confusion and blind walks into life, I should have sought God for the answers. He's the only one who knows which way the balls curve and what new excitement our life will hold. So as I search and senselessly try to figure things out, God has it all in control, I only need to call on him and seek Him for the answers. He won't reveal the whole picture, but just enough to trust Him and follow His commands. In fact sometimes He leads us with nothing else to go on except the faith we have in Him. Sometimes, its just a matter of trust and obedience. Denying our wants and earthly wisdom and accepting everything he has called us to do.